It is necessary to support the gender identity and behaviour of your child even if they are gender-diverse or transgender children.  Parents by accepting and showing to love and accept them as they are (regardless of whether it is just a phase), can help them feel more satisfied, happy and ready to face an environment that may be prejudiced. 

If a child wants to talk openly, it is necessary to accept it, but it is also possible to offer to talk to an expert sensitized to the topic. This is especially important in cases where parents cannot talk openly, so that the child has the opportunity to speak out about his thoughts, feelings, doubts, but also the difficulties he faces. 

Support from the school (at least to have educated professionals to whom the child can be referred for an interview), mental health professionals and doctors is needed. Support for parents is as important as supporting children.

If you have decided to have a conversation with the child, create an environment where your child feels comfortable asking questions and expressing their thoughts and feelings about gender. Let them know that you are open to discussing any topic related to gender identity with them. Use language that is inclusive and affirming of all gender identities. Avoid reinforcing gender stereotypes or making assumptions about your child’s gender identity based on their interests, appearance, or behavior. Tailor the information you provide to your child’s age and level of understanding. Keep explanations simple and straightforward, and avoid overwhelming them with too much information at once. Respect your child’s autonomy and allow them to explore and express their gender identity in their own way and at their own pace. Offer support and guidance as needed, but ultimately let them take the lead in discovering who they are. 

Seek out additional resources and support from books, online resources, support groups, or LGBTQ+-friendly organizations to help you navigate discussions about gender identity with your child.

You can start here:

McGlashan, H., & Fitzpatrick, K. (2018). ‘I use any pronouns, and I’m questioning everything else’: transgender youth and the issue of gender pronouns. Sex Education, 18(3), 239-252.